My One Word

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I started 2020 with the motto #myjourney. I needed a healing journey for my heart after experiencing my moms death and letting myself slide backwards with my fitness and my mindset and frankly some unhealthy behaviors.

This year has taught me to move forward with wisdom, not regret. The question is “What Kind Of Person Do You Want To Become?” When considering changes in this journey, we tend to think in terms of specific behaviors, typically, we give too much voice to our negative behaviors. Or we react in a way that is uncharacteristic and our integrity is questioned.

I decided to move forward with vision not regret. When I don’t see a vision I become unfocused and undisciplined. Sure, I have regret in how I have behaved in certain situations, or allowing someone in my life that wasn’t healthy for me, but instead of living in that, I have to refocus on my vision of who I am as a person. I have to focus on the positive people that are in my life and all the outside positives I have that surround me. #myjourney

Spend time reflecting on who you wish to become or the changes you want to make. We tend to define who we are by what we do. I am a teacher. I am a mom. I am dentist. I am a nurse. We tend to define who we want to be be the same way. I want to be the area’s top realtor. I want to be married. I want to be a marathoner.

We tend to give surface answers instead of digging deeper. Consider the condition of your heart, your character, your soul. This requires diving in deep and a fierce commitment to being gut-honest with yourself. When we truly dig deep and look beneath our behavior we discover what’s driving it–the beliefs and motives that make up our character. Our character and moral qualities are distinctive to who we are.


As you slowly gain a vision of the kind of person you want to become, grow into, improve to be, you will add words to what your motto is. Having acknowledged where you’ve messed up or fallen short puts you in the best possible position to move forward. You may have struggled to change many times and resolved that you will always be the way you are. “It’s just the way I am,” but that is not entirely true. Own your past, own your hurt, own your mistakes, own the things that made others question your integrity and character and decide, who do you want to be?


I do not put #myjourney on my workout posts or my writings only as my motto. I put it on because this has been a journey, and my journey is to own my shit, improve daily to heal, and always become a better version of me. This has been a process in which I have reconnected with friends, made new friends, joined a fitness family and with the help of all those around me, I have set goals in which I am not alone. Remind yourself that it is okay to not be perfect and be grateful for each step forward that you take. Allow those that want to be a part of your journey and support you in to help as you are helping them as well.

If you are ready, come up with YOUR motto and release the past and move forward to a new and better beginning RIGHT NOW.

Today, I am training for my first ever 25K trail run. Like this shit is real. I am actually signed up to run under the name “ultra” which is crazy. I just bought a Peloton bike and I am now part of the most amazing fitness support family. In the process, I have made a core group of friends and each day we check on each other, meet for virtual workouts and hold each other accountable. BUT we are there for our falls and help each other stand back up as well. I have fallen many, many times, but life is a journey and we brush ourselves off and we continue forward. What will your one word be? Love to all my friends!


Becky Shaffer—Author—Life Coach—Educator

Published by beckyshafferliveinconfidence

I did the crazy and left my career teaching job after 19 years to work on and build my coaching business. I took a year off to follow my dream of being a life coach and using my skills, life lessons and training to help others find meaning in their life. While I do this, I am always growing, learning and finding more purpose and meaning in my life as well. Currently, I am life coaching and fitness coaching part-time , I continue to blog, meet with clients and I am back to teaching full time in Columbus City Schools, working with gifted students, teaching. U.S. History.

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