Goals v’s Resolutions

this year I will word under torn black sugar paper“My goal for 2022 is to accomplish the goals of 2021 which I should have done in 2020 because I made a promise to myself in 2019 and planned in 2018”, Sound familiar?

You create a goal. 

You create a plan to achieve the goal. 

Something outside your plan gets in your way. 

And now you’re stuck.

If you don’t take time to reflect on the habits and actions that led to yet another unfulfilled goal, you will keep coming up short.

Wanting to change yourself and better yourself is a beautiful and inspiring thing.  And it turns out that’s also how most other people think: 50% of all Americans for example set themselves a New Year’s resolution.  Less than 25% actually stick to it.  Depends on the research, but some say as little as 8% stick to their resolutions.  That is astonishing to me.  I feel a resolution should be a reachable “goal” and that is where many make the mistake.  Too big, Too soon, HUGE expectations, but the mind and heart are in the right thought.

Gyms are packed in early January.  All the new running shoes, running outfits and eager people fill the cardio room.  My goal is to fill my virtual gym with those that want to get in shape, which is great if one sticks with it.

Many have little insight on how to properly exercise, but their resolution is to lose weight and get into shape.  This often fails because after a couple weeks one sees no results.  It is great to set this goal, but remember, you can’t outwork food.  There is an entire system to losing weight and hitting the cardio room in new shoes with no other new habits usually won’t work.  Many do not take the time to learn to meal prep, portion control or how to use the apps at their finger tips to help you find success.

When your holiday decorations are packed up and stored away, the frustration of an unused gym membership or other reminders of failed resolutions can make the later winter months feel hopeless.  Not to mention if you are in a state that has true winter, some of these resolutions are even more challenging.  Now we add a pandemic on top of it, where some may not have an option of a gym.  I put a gym in my basement, this is the best investment in my home I have ever done.  Truly, you just need a smart TV and my on demand workouts and you are able to workout.  With me you will have an amazing support system.

However, it is important to remember that the New Year isn’t meant to serve as a catalyst for sweeping character changes. It is a time for people to reflect on their past year’s behavior and promise to make positive lifestyle changes.  Use the baggage as a learning curve.  Setting small, attainable goals throughout the year, instead of a singular, overwhelming goal on January 1 can help you reach whatever it is you strive for. By making your resolutions realistic, there is a greater chance that you will keep them throughout the year.

Having a buddy or a support system will help you achieve your goal.  I recently started a program that has changed my life.    Without my tribe, I wouldn’t make it, but because of this tribe, I have made it over a week and I have released 10 pounds so far.  Something I have never thought I would do after my battle of long-haul Covic.  This year, I am adding trail running to my list.  I am so excited about this, but realistically, I know I need a support system, therefore I have joined a trail running group.

I am also eating healthier and cleaning up my diet.  I started “Moving in Confidence” a fitness coaching group where we all hold each other accountable.  If there are questions ask, if you had a great workout, share it.  If you have ideas, or find something interesting, it is shared.  When you workout, show your acountability.  This is HUGE when we have those days of struggle.  Whatever your “goal”,  resolution is, it is important to have that support system.  Keep a journal as well.  Writing things down seems to stick with the reality of you not achieving or achieving what you set out to do.

Start small and every 30 days revisit your goal.  You may have to adjust your goal.  As you take steps, reward yourself and make sure you recognize that each step is a success.  I am here to help you visit your goal and I can help you readjust.

The beginning of the year is such a hopeful time.  Within a few weeks when the motivation wears off, the challenge is to stay on course.  The only way to have a different outcome is to figure out what didn’t work in the past.  Don’t repeat it.  It takes time to learn new things, so it is important to give yourself that time.  Allow yourself to have days of frustrations and days of setbacks, after all, we are only human.

Use your journal as a tracking system.  Write what didn’t work that day and on the day’s things do work, write the successes down.  Too many people see failures as a stop sign.  Failures are a learning opportunity and if you can see it as that you will not fall into the stats of not filling your resolution.

My personal goal this year is to be in the Now.  I don’t want to go back to my past, but I want to be present and enjoy what I have in front of me moving forward.  It is easy to look at failures, my mistakes, people who have done me wrong, the wrong and pain I have caused people, the loved ones I have lost from death, which in turn puts me in a mindset of feeling worthless and in turn, I won’t reach a goal that day.  If I can stay present in the now and see where I am at, where I am going, then my mind is in the space it needs to be in.

Know Your WHY!

Many of us make goals more important than sharing love with those around us, do both, live by our values, and appreciate what is around you.   I’ve come to learn that goals are only worth having if they can enrich our lives right now. Because of how we consistently experience the present will always determine the beauty of what we reap.images-15

Becky Shaffer–Life Coach–Fitness Coach–Educator–Author



Published by beckyshafferliveinconfidence

I did the crazy and left my career teaching job after 19 years to work on and build my coaching business. I took a year off to follow my dream of being a life coach and using my skills, life lessons and training to help others find meaning in their life. While I do this, I am always growing, learning and finding more purpose and meaning in my life as well. Currently, I am life coaching and fitness coaching part-time , I continue to blog, meet with clients and I am back to teaching full time in Columbus City Schools, working with gifted students, teaching. U.S. History.

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