These old barms hold memories. Memories taking us back in history, the ruggitness of hard work and sweat. This history of agriculture on landscapes of mountains, hills and in the plans. It’s the history and the stories behind these structures that make them so intriguing. Filled with heartbreak escaping slavery, to shelter for animals, aContinue reading “These Old Barns”
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Crossing The Bridge
Many cross the bridge before they come to it. One must cross the streets of failures, and heartache, and explore possibilities before one knows which bridge to cross. Life lessons and discipline is the bridge between accomplishments and for some their life desires. We all look ahead and in order to set that path forContinue reading “Crossing The Bridge”
The Things We Carry
We’ve all seen them. The quotes on Facebook, Pinterest, Intagram and Twitter. They seem so bold, inspiring, liberating and freeing. But it dawned on me, it’s the universe itself speaking to me, in a moment so clear I could almost swear all those around me had heard it. It said “you do not have toContinue reading “The Things We Carry”
Grief, the Holidays And Beyond
Trust That Grief Is Part of Healing Time doesn’t heal the pain associated with a loss; it’s what you do with that time that matters. Grief is the process by which you heal. Experiencing the pain rather than constantly trying to escape it, can actually help you feel better in the long-term. So while it mayContinue reading “Grief, the Holidays And Beyond”
Rising Above
When I think back to the shit storm of a childhood I lived, the one word that I have always chanted to myself is “Rising Above”, as this is what kept my focus moving forward. I have always looked at life as way bigger than myself and or my abuse. Recently, I started a podcastContinue reading “Rising Above”
Living Your Best Life
My heart is filled with gratitude! I am blessed with two amazing boys who have made my life all but boring. I had a Mom and Step-Dad that taught me unconditional love and family values. I had an amazing brother whose heart was so loving and giving. I have a beautiful family spread out wideContinue reading “Living Your Best Life”
STOP Comparing Yourself
As a woman, society has set me up to think my body should be a certain size and shape. Overall I have been blessed with loving fitness, therefore for most of my life, I have been able to stay in shape because I love eating healthy and working out. This past year I can’t sayContinue reading “STOP Comparing Yourself”
What Is The Purpose Of A Relationship?
Not an earth-shattering answer, but the point of a relationship is to grow. A relationship can make life more exciting for one. We consider to think of a relationship as something we do, the mindset of settling down. But are you really settling down? Of course, we all want to meet our person, most ofContinue reading “What Is The Purpose Of A Relationship?”
Stonewalling
A lot of Silence. And more silence. Followed by more silence, possibly days of silence. Ok, you understand it is the “silent treatment.” The feeling of loneliness, disengagement, and hurt alternate with anger and resignation. You are not happy, you want to reconnect, to restore the good dynamics in your relationship but it feels as ifContinue reading “Stonewalling”
I Am Not A Project
Changing the person you are dating into someone else is not a connection, it’s a control.