Don’t Get Stuck. Learning Yourself.

I wrote “Learning Yourself” because I experienced this personally.  A year ago, I left a very toxic work environment and decided to follow my dream as a Life Coach.  I knew nothing more of myself than being a teacher.  That was what defined me, that was my purpose in life.  It’s all I knew.  For 19 years helping kids, parents and families was my passion and purpose and it still is, just a new path was shown to me and today, I am walking it. 13501551_10154410046303304_4539603237484427758_n

The transition was not one that had been planned, but how often do plans actually happen? During this defining moment in my life, it was hard to not turn around and return to what was familiar.  We naturally define ourselves in part by our surroundings.  When our surroundings change, it can be disorienting.  This is the “stuck” feeling a lot of my clients experience.  We work together on getting “un-stuck” and finding the path that leads to the passion or desire one has always had.

I chose to take the leap and follow my dream. I was scared like many. You can choose to be stuck in the middle hanging on, or you can slide down that pole, get on the ground and start walking.  Your walk is not alone.  I will be by your side guiding you.

Taking a look at the parts of yourself and your life that you most value can be a hard process–how can you bring those parts of yourself into your new role?  Together we will get you there.

Susan a client of mine lost her sense of identity.  She started a new job and worried that she was not equipped for this new position.  She was questioning her decision to advance and thought maybe she was better off before. (We tend to go back to the “comfort zone”) It took some time working with her  to re-build her sense of identity in her new position.  As she became more comfortable in her new duties and with new colleagues, her work identity was reestablished.  Today we continue our work together, continue to set new goals, continue to walk this new path together and most of all this transition is the new Susan.  You too can walk this path. 

Whatever there is a transition in life , it’s easy to become overly focused and forget the purpose of the transition.  Some are wanted and others we could live without.  No matter the age we all need to find that purpose at every stage. Don’t get stuck like Susan did and lose our sense of identity.  We may have a transition in life we didn’t ask for, but that doesn’t mean it wasn’t meant to happen.  I will go back to my  toxic environment.  I never asked for the transition, I surely never asked to be bullied by an administrator, but it gave me my wings to fly.  Instead of saying: “I got dealt a shitty hand”, together we will look why you were dealt it.  Mine gave me the wings to fly and today I am able to take all my experience and education to build a business and help people like you become better, accept these journey’s and see the positive, or transition into a new role of your passion. 

Many of us live in “stuck”. Stuck trying to seem perfect, stuck in sadness, stuck feeling numb, stuck trying to find our purpose and pursuing more stuff to make us happy. These stuck places often go unattended inside of us and we allow them to shape our lives more than we would like to think.

Do you ever wonder what makes you stuck?  We are often unaware of how we have trapped ourselves in a routine and unhealthy patterns.  Together we can find this answer and move forward.   For your FREE 3o minute session, schedule your appointment today at

Becky Shaffer—Adolescent/Life Coach

Published by beckyshafferliveinconfidence

I did the crazy and left my career teaching job after 19 years to work on and build my coaching business. I took a year off to follow my dream of being a life coach and using my skills, life lessons and training to help others find meaning in their life. While I do this, I am always growing, learning and finding more purpose and meaning in my life as well. Currently, I am life coaching and fitness coaching part-time , I continue to blog, meet with clients and I am back to teaching full time in Columbus City Schools, working with gifted students, teaching. U.S. History.

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